Hello Canary, Thank you for listening " to me I think if someone invented a tamper proof tap for these antiquated catheter bags they could make a fortune , in the meantime we have to do the best we can. Already friends and family are telling me to use a CH but although OH is away with the fairies some of the time, other times he is completely lucid and he will not agree to this solution. If staff do have any helpful tips I would be so grateful if you passed them on. I have today ordered a Kylie blanket which might help with the washing, there are so many of us in this dreadful situation, I am so sorry for us all.