But as pegging has continued to make its way into the popular consciousness (thanks, Broad City!), queer and non-binary folks have started using the term, too. “It’s become a more fluid term as gender boundaries have become less rigid,” says Stuart Nugent, brand manager at luxury sex-toy company LELO. And it's good news, considering the healthy effects experts say pegging allows for.

First, there's the physical pleasure to account for: For men, pegging targets the prostate gland (essentially the male G-spot), and many describe the resulting sensation as a full-body orgasm, says Alicia Sinclair, sex educator and CEO of anal-sex-product company b-Vibe. “It’s usually different than other orgasms. It’s full-force.” The pegger, meanwhile, may find the act to be empowering as well as physically stimulating , Sinclair says. And, many experts agree, pegging may boost the health of your relationship on another level: “You will often find that after you explore pegging, there is a deepening of trust as [your partner] opens up to being even more vulnerable with you,” White says. Cheers to intimacy.

While it's great that the term is now understood across demographics, knowing your way around a strap-on is another issue entirely. And whether you already know you want to give it a try or still have some lingering questions, you're covered below in the veritable Pegging 101 lesson.

8 steps to take before pegging like a pro.

1. Talk about it first—in-depth

And by in-depth, I mean in-depth. If you want to peg your partner, or they want to be pegged by you, SparkNotes-esque chats about it just won’t do. “Have a real conversation about what you’re hoping to experience,” says Sinclair. For instance, if your partner wants to try it to play with submission and dominance, the act may play out differently than if they just liked recent butt-centric action and wanted to explore the sensation further.

Maybe even incorporate pegging into your sexting or dirty talk so that you can fantasize about the act together. “What positions do you want to try? Do research together to figure it out if you don’t know,” suggests Sinclair. Being able to really talk about pegging is a good sign that you're on your way to being ready to try it IRL.