"Moochers are fundamentally motivated by being selfish and self-centered," she says. "They habitually forgive their behavior. But the truth is that it's complete self-indulgence. It's not benign."
How do you deal with moochers?
So, here are the tips for dealing with moochers and users.
- Have and communicate strong boundaries with those you give to. ...
- It's okay to say no. ...
- If you want to know who your real friends are, tell them NO once in awhile and see how they react. ...
- Keep track of people's reciprocity and keep balanced accounts.
How do you spot a mooch?
Smiling at you at a coffee shop. Swirling ice in a drink someone bought them at a bar. Cracking a joke at the dog park. Moochers don't have to stand at intersections asking for money or hold up a sign telling a hard-luck story.
