O’Donnell told a story about their conflicting lifestyles that ultimately led to their split. “She wanted to play tennis at the country club, and I don’t do country clubs. I tried,” O’Donnell said. “They made an exception for a gay family, and we joined.

When was dear refuge of my weary soul written?

This pervasive connection to suffering gave rise to one of her most enduring hymns, “Dear refuge of my weary soul.” This text was first published in her Poems on Subjects Chiefly Devotional, vol. 1 (1760), in eight stanzas of four lines, without music, headed “God the only refuge of the troubled mind” (Fig. 1).