How do you stop vindictive behavior?
- Set boundaries.
- Vocalize your terms or boundaries.
- Don't second-guess yourself.
- Try not to internalize.
- Shelter from their anger.
- Develop a safety plan.
- Consider asking for help.
- Suggest they seek help.
How can I get over my revenge?
Go for coffee or a movie and try to engage with your friends. This will help take your mind off your desires and make you feel happy, instead of stressed or angry. Let time pass. Over time, you will process your emotions, and the desire for revenge will become less intense.
How do I stop being spiteful?
- Admit that you feel bitter. You've got to know it's there—and face it—in order to leave it behind.
- Acknowledge who hurt you and that you hold on to the hurt. Ask yourself why you won't let it go. ...
- Let go. ...
- Forgive. ...
- Change your expectations. ...
- Know that you are bigger than bitterness. ...
- Get help if you need it.
