The purpose of a wake in modern times is to share memories and stories of the lost loved one. It can be seen as a celebration of the person's life, as well as an opportunity for family and friends to comfort each other in grief. During a wake, there will often be refreshments. ... A wake usually lasts a few hours.

Is a wake necessary?

Attending the wake isn't necessary. Especially if you didn't know the deceased's family well. But attending the wake can communicate to the family how much this friendship meant to you.

What usually happens at a wake?

A wake is typically held in a funeral home and takes place the afternoon or evening before a funeral. The casket or urn is on display in a room, and the casket may be open or closed with a small kneeling bench in front. ... When approaching the casket or urn, some visitors choose to kneel and bow their heads in prayer.