Insecurity can make someone afraid of being hurt. The type of hurt that causes excessive fear in relationships is the thought of the relationship ending. ... Often, low self-esteem makes people fear that they're a burden, which fuels the fear of abandonment. Fears and anxieties join insecurity to invade thoughts.

How does insecurities ruin a relationship?

Chronic insecurity robs you of your peace and prevents you from being able to engage with your partner in a relaxed and authentic way. The actions that come from insecurity—always asking for reassurance, jealousy, accusing, and snooping—erode trust, aren't attractive, and can push a partner away.

Why you shouldn't date someone who is insecure?

Ettin notes that the biggest risk of dating someone who is extremely insecure is that they will start making it your job to keep their self-esteem up. This can become a huge problem and, ultimately, a source of tension.