Interestingly, research shows that putting your spouse first provides the security, comfort, and stability that helps children thrive. And, when couples put each other first, it sets the stage for a fantastic relationship where each person feels loved, supported, and secure.

Should a wife come first in a marriage?

If you put your spouse first, your marriage will last your lifetime. If you want your marriage to last your lifetime, give it the attention and effort it deserves. ... When your kids leave, your spouse is the one who's left. If you've made them your last priority (and think it's funny) they'd be dumb to stay with you.

Who should a husband put first?

Luckily, you can keep your internal conflict to a minimum by putting your spouse first after you tie the knot. "By-and-large, barring a crisis, I would say that your partner should come first, and know that he or she is the top priority," Duffy says.