Making amends is part of the process of not only seeking forgiveness from others, letting them know how sorry we are, but also in working to forgive ourselves. Self-forgiveness is a crucial part of recovery. Without it, we are likely to fall into our same old patterns in order to cope with the pain.

What is the purpose of making amends?

When you make amends, you acknowledge and align your values to your actions by admitting wrongdoing and then living by your principles. In addiction, our actions and intentions aren't aligned. For example, we might intend to go to a friend's birthday party, but in actuality, we fail to show up for the event.

Why is making amends so important to a recovering individual?

It relieves stress. The guilt and anxiety that stem from your past actions can feel inescapable. Maybe you avoid the people, places and things that bring up those unpleasant emotions. Making amends is an act of courage that can help you get closure and move forward with your life.