Here are some things you can do to try to improve your experience and maybe even start to cultivate good feelings toward your stepchild:
- Create a vision for your life that includes your stepchild. ...
- Address the behavior. ...
- Don't have regrets. ...
- Find one endearing quality you can embrace. ...
- Pretend you're her.
Is it normal to resent stepchildren?
In fact, it's normal. Stepparents should not feel, or be made to feel, guilty for not instantly (or ever) loving their stepkids. When they do, that guilt – if ongoing and unaddressed – can morph over time into deep-seated resentment.
How do I accept my partner's child?
Helping step-parenting go smoothly
- Talk with your partner. Ask your partner questions like:
- Get to know your stepchild. Get to know your stepchild before you live together if you can. ...
- Focus on positives. ...
- Take things slowly. ...
- Think about former partners. ...
- Look after yourself.
