Simply put, we regret choices we make, because we worry that we should have made other choices. We think we should have done something better, but didn't. ... The problem is that we cannot change those choices. So we keep comparing the unchangeable choice we actually made, to this ideal.
How do I stop regretting things?
5 Steps to Overcoming Regret
- Accept the reality of the thing you regret. The mistakes are real. ...
- Forgive yourself. Show yourself the same kind of mercy you want others to extend when you have wronged them. ...
- Make amends. ...
- Forget what is behind you. ...
- Do the opposite of what you regret.
Why do I keep making decisions I regret?
Regret is often the result of a thinking imbalance. Holding on to a particular decision, or a set of decisions, distorts are ability to realistically evaluate our lives as undue focus is placed on negatives. Write down all the positives in your life, such as family, friends, jobs, and any successes you've had so far.
