Here's how it usually works: The wedding vows are exchanged first. The vows are the promises of love and devotion you and your partner make to each other, surrounded by friends, family and loved ones. The exchange of wedding rings comes after you've each said your vows.

Do you say vows before exchanging rings?

In a traditional wedding ceremony order, the vows are followed by the ring exchange. The groom usually goes first, though we invite you to be progressive. He puts the wedding band on the bride's finger while repeating a phrase like, “I give this ring as a sign of my love.” Then, it's the bride's turn.

Are vows before or after I do?

You have three basic options when it comes to your vows: Speak your vows yourselves, repeat your vows after your officiant, or say "I do" when your officiant asks you "Do you ...?" questions. There are sample wedding vows of each style.